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Take a Break from Relationships and Take Time to Date Yourself

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It is hard to appreciate another human being when you don’t know how to appreciate yourself. It is difficult to see the best in others when you can’t see the best in you.

As we struggle to get acceptance within our social classes, we can get carried away by all the demands everyone is putting on us.  Often times, we forget ourselves as we try to declare our existence to those we are out to impress. The dating scene can especially be difficult when we are busy trying to get someone’s attention yet we have never figured out who we really are. As a result, we showcase someone we know so little about, bringing in trouble into a relationship that is just getting started. Before we know it, the relationship is ruined and we are out looking for the next person to try out a relationship with. The vicious cycle that is our lives.

But what if you slowed down? What if you took time away from everyone else to discover who you truly are? What if you date yourself? Because you’ve never taken the time to explore yourself, you have no idea what kind of treasures are hidden deep within. You’ve never given yourself a chance to get to know you, so you don’t know how you should deal with everybody else.

What will happen when you date yourself?

Will you like you if you date yourself? You will never find that out unless you try. Instead of going out to a movie with a potential lover, go and watch the movie by yourself. Instead of cooking a meal for your friends, look for your favorite recipe and cook the best meal just for you. Go out to the park and have a conversation with yourself. Take time to review your life and appreciate who you are, where you are coming from and where you are headed.

It is hard to appreciate another human being when you don’t know how to appreciate yourself. It is difficult to see the best in others when you can’t see the best in you. Goodness starts from the inside. If you are OK with you, you will be OK with others. Appreciate yourself enough to take you out and date yourself without any pressure. Enjoy a meal without worrying about how you are eating and what the person you are dating will think about your table manners.

Love yourself, spend money on yourself and discover yourself. This experience can be life changing. As you learn everything there is to know about you, you will find yourself starting to attract the right people in your life. And when the wrong ones come along, you will notice and value yourself enough to reject their lure.

A writer, a social media specialist, a singer-song writer, a brother, a son and a friend.

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