Whether you’ve been cheated on, cheated on your significant other, or simply know someone who has done one of those two things you definitely have an opinion about it. Everyone does. I’ve heard it all about how I cheated on my boyfriend.
“Cheating is wrong.”
“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
We’ve heard them all, but its hard to have a real honest opinion until you’ve been on either side of it.
Being cheated on feels like a punch in the gut. It takes awhile for you to start breathing normally again. Needless to say, it’s not fun. But being the one who cheats feels so much worse, if you have a heart. I cheated on my boyfriend – the only serious boyfriend I ever had – and let me tell you it did not feel good.
In the moment you are not thinking about your significant other or how they’ll react. You are selfishly thinking about yourself and your “needs”.
I was in a long distance relationship — its not an excuse, I know — with someone I adored, but who I only saw once every two months. In the beginning we thought we knew just how hard a LDR would be so we started dating without thinking about the consequences. He rarely visited (money issues) and I was beginning to feel lonely — again I know this is not an excuse — so one drunken night at a bar I took some idiot home and ruined my relationship in the process.
I cheated on my boyfriend and couldn’t face him
The next day I could only think about how royally f—cked up and how badly I’d just hurt someone who loved me. There was only one thing I could do — I had to break it off. The worst part of it all was that since we were in a LDR I had to do it over the phone. I couldn’t even give him a face-to-face conversation and I felt like a coward.
I’ve grown-up a lot since then and I had to cheat (and lose the person I loved most) to realize that I was going down the wrong path. I never wanted to be someone who cheated on their significant other, but despite only doing it just once I am that person I dreaded becoming and I’ll take that with me for the rest of my life. And I’ll never ever hurt someone that way again.